Diamonds & Documents
The Theory of the Double Ds in Dating
In the latest episode of Relationship Status: Uncomplicated, we explore a concept I call the Theory of the Double Ds. This theory emphasizes the importance of keeping perspective when it comes to dating. Here are two key points to remember:
1. Diamonds and Documents: Understanding Boundaries The essence of the Theory of the Double Ds is simple: if you don't have a diamond (symbolizing a committed, long-term relationship) or documents (signifying legal ties, like marriage), you shouldn't stress yourself over a man's actions with his finances or physical engagements. While it may seem crass, this perspective encourages a healthy boundary-setting. Dating should be about fun, exploration, and getting to know someone without the unnecessary stress of trying to control their actions. If you're not in a committed relationship, it’s unrealistic and unhealthy to worry excessively about these aspects.
2. The True Purpose of Dating: Fun and Discovery
Dating is often misunderstood as a precursor to a serious relationship, but it doesn't have to be that way. It's a time to meet new people, enjoy shared experiences, and discover compatibility. This preliminary phase is about understanding if you have common goals and interests, not about imposing expectations or control. By focusing on having fun and enjoying the process, you can alleviate unnecessary pressure and avoid the pitfalls of trying to dictate someone else's actions too early.
Remember, dating is supposed to be enjoyable, and if it becomes too stressful, it's okay to move on.
Stay tuned for more insights and remember, dating should remain uncomplicated and enjoyable!